Want to understand how to experience joy on the road less traveled? Well, I can tell you that it doesn’t begin with comparison….

Comparison is the thief of joy. Seriously. It is.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve struggled with always comparing.

Comparing myself to my peers. To the models in the magazines. Celebrities in the movies. To photoshopped photos in general. And the older I get, the more I’m comparing myself to the moms and married women out there.

Shoot, I said it. I am guilty of it. I’ve had many nightly discussions with God on this, I tell you. Many.

Last November, I turned the iconic golden age of 30.

By that age, I’d have a nice list of accomplishments and accolades to impress myself with, right?

Wrong.

It seems that all of us are handed a specific roadmap when growing up on how to navigate life properly. It’s like the world made this one-size-fits-all checklist to follow and it got stuck in our minds. “Get a great career, get married, have lots of babies, purchase a house, a car, travel“…blah blah blah.

Some of these I haven’t accomplished, and if I’m honest, my heart yearns for them.

But……what no one told me is that my roadmap changes – it suddenly shifts – diverting me off of the page to the road less traveled.

Maybe too a much longer road….

To a place of the unknown…leaving me not checking off anything on the initial list.

I’ve suddenly added on things like addiction, grief, loss, separation, failure, and more.

My journey now has changed drastically.

While others pass me by, I take the road less traveled. I then discover hope, faith, love, trust and I begin to create a new list to check off. I suddenly stop to take photos on the road – seeing the beauty and miracle in it all. I plant seeds along the way and actually see them grow.

My plans that I once had – and I’m guessing that you once had – begin to align with what God has in store for the future, which is far greater than our human minds can handle.

We can take a step back and acknowledge, “Wow God, you really are answering my prayers, but in Your time and in Your will.”


I used to look out of the window and wish that I could have someone else’s greener lawn of grass – so to speak.

However, I’ve learned that I’ve got to tend to, water, nurture my own yard before any grass can grow.

So my message to you, to us, is to stop comparing, because in the end, we will always fall short somehow. Comparison is a vicious cycle that leads to a downward spiral of negativity and emptiness. 

Instead, we should take the time to sow the seeds in the yard we’ve been given and watch them grow. Pretty soon others will come frolicking over to see – what we considered to be – the road less traveled. 

Create your own checklist and thank God for making you, because He makes no mistakes.

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Fantastic post! Im always hearing that I shouldn’t compare my life and work to others, but no one ever goes on to offer alternatives. To seek God’s plan through prayer and patience seems so logical and comforting. Thanks so much for the encouragement.

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Awww I’m so happy this helped! The answers are always so simple – it’s the execution that can cause us trouble! Thanks for stopping by!

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Beautiful Chiara, thank you for this reminder about the dangers of comparing our roads. The path that we take in this life is unique to each of us and we should strive not to be envious of the others’ joys but to dig down and rejoice with them. The same goes for their sorrows; we mourn with them and we share their pain. If we do more of this then the envy goes away and we become the brothers sisters we are meant to be.

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Amen to that, Vince! Standing WITH others in encouragement does so much more than standing back and comparing ever will!

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Amen ! What a fantastic reminder of God’s grace and faithfulness ! His way and His timing – He never makes mistakes and He is Never late. Beautiful ! Thank you for sharing it with us!!

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Agreed, Lee! Thanks for stopping by!

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What a wonderful post. I read this when I was having a Murphy’s Law kind of day. What ever can go wrong, will go wrong. Nothing huge or serious, but none the less, it was bringing me down. Chiara’s word’s really helped me see the bigger picture and think about what God might be trying to teach me through all of this. That the path in which I choose to handle difficult days can effect the people around me and that “I’ve got to tend to, water, nurture my own lawn before any grass can grow.” Thank you for sharing

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I’m so glad these words could be an encouragement for you today, Elise! Thanks for stopping by!

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After reading this post, the advice below has been on my mind….
“However, I’ve learned that I’ve got to tend to, water, nurture my own yard before any grass can grow.”

Thanks a lot for this great piece.

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Amen, Marcie! That’s one of my favorite lines! Thanks for stopping by!

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